Book Name- How To Stop Worrying and Start Living
Author- Dale Carnegie
I have spent most of my life constantly worrying about almost everything. You may also have the bad habit of worrying and stressing out stuff in your day to day life.
Actually, worrying is a complete waste of time. No problem has ever been solved by worrying about it.
Problems are solved with rational thought and decisive actions, not worries.
Cultivate the habit to tackle problems like a warrior rather than worrying about them.
This habit can make your life literally a thousand times better.
You will notice when you stop worrying, you can actually start having time to enjoy life.
You won’t be constantly miserable, and you won’t be destroying your physical and mental health.
The Author “Dale Carnegie” has written valuable practical ways to tackle worries in his amazing book “How To Stop Worrying and Start Living”.
Some of the most valuable lessons to tackle worries in this great book are as follows-
1- Analyze Your Worries
- One of the worst features of worrying is that it destroys our ability to concentrate.
- When we worry our mind jumps here and there due to which we lose all our power of decision.
- Rather than being submissive to your worries, you should analyze them like an observer and find a solution like a leader.
- Whenever you’re worried about something, grab a pen and paper and write down two questions on it. Those are-
- What am I worried about?
- What can I do about it?
- Write down your worry or the problem in precise detail.
- Then write at least three courses of action you can take.
- Then decide which course of action has the highest probability of a positive result.
2- Accept The Worst
- Ask yourself, “what’s the worst thing that can happen”?
- When we force ourselves to face the worst and accept it mentally we then eliminate all those vague imaginings.
- By doing so you put yourselves in a position in which you are able to concentrate on find solutions with a clear mind.
- When you take time to analyze your worry and then accept the worst and improve upon it there’s a good chance you’ll eliminate your worry.
When I first started out writing blog, it took me more than 3 months to publish my first post. Just because I was worrying if anybody is going to like it or not.
The worries were in my head.
Then I accepted that the worst would be nobody gonna read my posts. And started out writing for my own growth.
For example, if you feel worried when asked to speak on stage in front of a big crowd.
You may create a ton of imaginings in your head about all the bad that will happen to you. But in reality, worst will be that some people may leave without listening. That’s all.
They are not going to shot you in the head.
Clearly define the worst outcome, and you’ll soon start to realize how ridiculous and stupid most of your worries are.
Think if today is your last day on earth. Will you still be worrying about your lesser grades, outdated phone, or job promotion.
Obviously NO. You would enjoy whatever you have. You will actually value life and that’s all which is needed.
3- Day Tight Compartments
- In order to prevent worry from creeping back into your life, live in day-tight compartments.
- In the early 1900s large ocean vessels were designed so that if one part gets flooded other could be sealed off by watertight iron doors which would prevent the ship from sinking.
- This concept can also be applied to your life.
- Act like the captain of your life ship who has the ability to press a button and shut the iron doors on today’s compartment.
- Thus preventing the fears of yesterday and the worries of tomorrow from flooding into your mind.
- To activate your iron doors do two things-
- First, wake up every morning and imagine you’re living a new life. Imagine your old self had died last night and your worries and regrets died with them and this morning is the first day of the rest of your life.
- Then tell yourself if I take care of today, tomorrow will take care of itself.
“Today is our most precious possession. It is our only sure possession.”
4- Stay Busy
- Stay busy doing something productive or spending quality time with people you love and care about.
- Sitting on the couch and worrying and procrastinating about things has nothing to do with being busy.
- You may read a book, learn some new skills or work on your project or anything you enjoy.
- The best way to get rid of the negative thoughts in your head is to actually start putting positive thoughts in there.
- Simply get busy with what you are passionate about and your brain simply won’t even have the time to worry.
Its very clear that worrying is the solution to nothing. It only exaggerates the problems.
Rather than thinking too much about problems, try finding out solutions, and take action.
Most of the worries born out of inaction. Take one hundred percent responsibility for your life.
So stop worrying and start living.